The day has finally arrived: your teen, now a college freshman, is heading off to begin their new journey. While this is an exciting time for them, it can be a bittersweet moment for you as a parent. The house that once echoed with their laughter and bustling activities now feels unusually quiet. This transition, often referred to as the "empty nest" phase, can bring a mix of emotions. Here are some tips to help you navigate this emotional journey.

Acknowledge your feelings

It's normal to experience a wide range of emotions when your child leaves for college. You might feel pride and excitement for their new adventures, some sadness and loneliness, but also some new enthusiasm for this new chapter in your life. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment. Bottling up your feelings can make the adjustment period harder.

Stay connected

While your teen is off exploring their new world, staying connected can help bridge the gap. Schedule regular phone calls or video chats to catch up. Be mindful not to overdo it. Give them space to grow and adapt to their new environment. A weekly check-in can be a perfect balance, allowing them to share their experiences and seek your guidance when needed.

Take advantage of parent-focused resources

You can stay connected with your teen’s college experience not only by checking in with them directly but also by seeing what resources are available to parents and families. For example, one way the University of Northern Iowa keeps families informed is through the Panther Parents & Families Newsletter. This monthly e-newsletter provides parents and families with information on deadlines, events and activities at UNI.

Rediscover your interests

With your teen no longer at home, now is the perfect time to rediscover hobbies and interests that you may have set aside. Whether it’s taking up a new hobby, enrolling in a class or diving back into an old passion, engaging in activities you love can bring joy and fulfillment.

Volunteer or pursue new opportunities

Volunteering can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Find a cause that resonates with you and get involved. Additionally, this could be a great time to pursue professional development opportunities or even a career change if that’s something you’ve been contemplating.

Create a support network

Sharing your feelings and experiences with others who are going through the same thing can be incredibly comforting. Seek out friendships with empty nesters, whether they are new to this phase of life like you or they have some years of experience behind them. 

Embrace the change

While it’s natural to miss your teen, try to focus on the positive aspects of this new chapter. Celebrate their independence and growth. Reflect on your accomplishments as a parent — you’ve equipped them with the tools they need to succeed.

Plan visits and new traditions

Having something to look forward to can make the transition easier. Plan visits to their college and look forward to their trips home. This can help create a new rhythm and new traditions for your family. Most institutions, like UNI, will have an annual Family Weekend where families are invited to enjoy campus life. A handful of other visits throughout the school year can be a great way to stay in the loop with your teen’s new life.

Enjoy your empty nest while your student enjoys their UNI experience!

The empty nest phase is a significant life transition that comes with its own set of challenges and rewards. Remember, this is a new beginning not just for your teen, but for you as well. Embrace this chapter with an open heart and mind, and discover the opportunities it brings.

To keep up to date on student life at UNI, make sure you are following UNI on Facebook, Instagram and X. This is a great way to stay informed on the goings on at the university.